The Guncle
Rowley, Steven. The Guncle. New York : G. P. Putnam’s Sons, [2021].
Book content warning: Death, LGBTQ+ themes, homophobia, and a brief allusion to suicide.
Every now and then, I come across a book that pleasantly surprises me when I step out of my comfort zone of psychological horror thrillers. Those are always exciting to me – but after reading so many of them in a row, my mind needs a lighthearted break and a chance to laugh.
That is exactly what The Guncle by Steven Rowley provides: a witty and fun story about navigating the process of grief and finding your way back to who you are, that is equal parts hilarious and touching.
In this critically acclaimed book, Rowley introduces us to the charming character of Patrick, a TV sitcom actor with a somewhat stalled career who is struggling with finding a new path in life. Patrick’s brother calls him one day to give him terrible news: his wife (who is also Patrick’s lifelong best friend) has died after a long battle with a terminal illness. To help his brother, Patrick agrees to take his niece and nephew back to his house in California for the summer. In doing so, he assumes a role of guardian that he is very ill prepared for.
What ensues is a hilarious and adventurous summer for Patrick and the kids that brings them closer than ever! Patrick’s niece and nephew lovingly call him GUP, short for Gay Uncle Patrick. And Patrick takes on this honorable role very (un)seriously, introducing them to the wonders of brunch, The Sound of Music, dancing, and plenty of afternoon swims in Patrick’s pool, while imparting little nuggets of wisdom to the kids that Patrick calls “Guncle Rules”.
This book took me on a magnificent rollercoaster ride of emotions. The story is well paced, with plenty of humor that helped me get through this book a lot quicker than most books I pick to read. As a character, Patrick is quite charming, and his delivery of quick and witty one-liners in response to his niece and nephew’s antics and heavily inquisitive nature kept me laughing with every turn of the page. Patrick’s growth while navigating the rough waters of parenting that he never even thought about dipping his toes in, even if only temporarily, is also inspiring.
But the one thing that I loved the most about this book is that, at its core, there is a heartfelt and captivating story about grief, how it affects people in different ways, and the emotional turmoil that we have to overcome to keep living our lives after a loss. Patrick has experienced lots of loss in his life. He tries his best to help his niece and nephew come to terms with their mother’s death, while also figuring out how to process his own grief. As a result, a series of tough, honest, and emotionally heavy conversations among Patrick and the kids are sprinkled throughout the book that brought quite a few tears out of me. The humor provides much needed comic relief after those moments, but I strongly recommend having some tissues ready before reading this book.
If you love a story that is dynamic and charming, that will have you laughing while also giving you plenty of moments for introspection about life, loss, and healing, this book is definitely for you. And after you are finished reading it, you can also check out the equally amazing sequel, The Guncle Abroad, in which Patrick and the kids take their adventures all the way to Europe!
Fabian R-J is a Library Assistant at May Memorial Library.







































